Families have to be clear about the educational project we want for our children
Recommended age 0 to +13 years
The problems or difficulties that we can find on a social level do not always have to be seen as something negative or disadvantageous . They can be a turn to a lifestyle and a social style and, therefore, an opportunity for improvement .
The fundamental thing is to consider how we want them to be as peopleTo think that these problems will happen, that they will be solved or that they should be solved, is to adopt a comfortable posture and not want to get involved. Whether or not this situation is caused by others does not mean that we have to wait or that we should only demand a solution or an answer. As members of the society and involved party we are responsible for making improvements , especially we who, in addition to contributing our attitude, can achieve, as a family, provide future members of a changing society .
Now more than ever it is important to consider a clear educational project for our children. We must not only think about what we would like them to learn, an instrument, languages… The fundamental thing is to ask ourselves how we want them to be as people and strive, as a priority, to transmit to them those values that help them to develop in life, to grow , to contribute to society and, with all this, to be happy . This last point sure is the goal that all families have for our children. Who does not want their children to be happy? The difference is thatWe do not always pay attention to the way they can become.
The first thing we should convey to our children is to teach them not to be selfish . Before fighting only for themselves, they must discover the satisfaction that comes from thinking about others , doing something for others and thinking about what we contribute or what each of us is capable of contributing to society. Much has been fought in recent years for personal improvement, to achieve many situations of individual successes no matter what that implied over others or the way in which those successes could be achieved. However, the human being is a social being by nature and think that we were going toBeing happy with all individual successes without the need of others, was a wrong thought whose consequences are being lived now . Today there are many people with great successes and individual triumphs who now feel alone and are not able , individually, to get ahead of this crisis both emotionally and economically or materially .
Educating them in generosity is not difficult , teaching them to have the ability to think about others and to remove them , in a way, from that innate selfishness that we can have since we were little. You can educate yourself in this line by making them aware at all times that they are surrounded by people who love them and other people they can help , teaching them to ask others how they are , if they need help, to worry about how their friends , how have your exams gone, to keep in mind your relatives, remember them on their special days ... These little habits can be worked from when they are very small , initially within the family , with parents and siblings, then with other close beings , uncles, cousins and friends or schoolmates, until that eventually become able to transfer these habits to society , to people who do not know but have a certain interest in them or have the ability to think about them or help them.
In parallel to these learnings it is also important to enhance individual values of intrinsic improvement that will give them strength to grow and make a strong society . Some of these values may be:
- Effort capacity : Knowing how to work, even if an immediate reward is not found or even if this reward is not expected. Do not give up on the first.
- Constancy : They must learn that everything they get in life will be a day-to-day and continuous attempt. We must make them run away from showing interest only for what they get immediate response or compensation, especially because life is not that. If they are used to trying every day, sooner or later they will succeed. For this reason, we must not only make them capable but also prepare them to be constant. Capacity without constancy does not help much.
- Humility : For all families their children are the best and educating them using positive reinforcement as a tool has really satisfactory consequences. The fact that they learn to do things well because we like them will make them great, but that is not why they will be the best. They will make mistakes that they must know how to accept and recognize in a humble way and live with it, not to hold others responsible for those mistakes or to try to hide them so that others perceive them, thus worsening the situation and blaming others for charges that do not correspond.
- Tolerance to frustration : From a very young age they have to learn that not everything they will be able to achieve or that there will be things for which they try hard and will not achieve what they intended. They should know that that is not why they will stop being happy, nothing will happen because they do not succeed and not getting it can make them strong. These situations must happen since they are very small and we, the families, should not prevent them from going through it. Overprotecting them in these aspects leads them to make them weak and insecure.
We may think that each of us cannot change society, but society is made up of all of us , if we each fight to educate our children along the same lines we will all make society turn the same way .